Campus relationships can be seen in many different ways, from family relationships to friendships, romantic relationships, and professional relationships like that of a professor with a student. Any kind of relationship takes work and effort to build, maintain, and sometimes even end.
Relationships are an important part of our lives and often play a vital role in our emotional well being. Yet the question is, “How Can I Make It Work?”
The most enduring sexual relationships that exist are really those that started while on Campus, because at the time, folks are still young, sincere, and innocent, and these relationships often make it through to marriage.
The same cannot be unspoken for graduates who are already out of school and having an unforgettable NYSC Camp experience looking to meet “Mr. only God Knows” to build a relationship with. Most of the relationships that surface usually end up as a “trial and error”.
I think, apart from the primary aim of learning and skill development at school, it is also an opportunity where you can build good relationship structures.
I would like to provide you the tips to help you form healthy, happy relationships by enhancing relationship skills, manage the often unpredictable challenges of relating with others, and endure the discouragement of ending relationships.
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5 Types of Campus Relationships
There are different types of Campus relationships depending on the people involved, what their end-goal is, and their intentions in the relationship. Here are the different types of relationships you will find on campus:
1. The Long-distance Relationship
This is a relationship where the handsome guy is dating a girl from another campus. Ninety percent of their relationship will be done on the phone. They will either meet at weekends or when school is gone for the brake.
2. Friends with Mutual Benefits
This is a relationship where both the guy and the lady are sexually obsessed with each other. They mostly meet at odds places for the craving passion for sexual affairs.
3. Couples Relationships
These are a kind of Husband and Wife affair where the lady has moved in together to live with the guy before completing their studies. They have already planned their wedding theme and the number of kids they would have after school.
4. Sponsor Relationship
Here is where a campus girl is in a relationship with a man twice or thrice her age, or even with a Professor. Her aim in this relationship is to earn higher grades, be spoilt with gifts, shoes, dresses, and also get some money for private upkeep. This type of relationships is common on campuses. At the OAU campus, we call them Aristos!
5. Sugar-mummy Relationship
The opposite of sponsor relationships. Here, a campus guy is dating a woman (probably a female Professor) thrice his age for favours, money, and gifts.
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Mistakes In Campus Relationships
We have compiled a few mistakes in Campus relationships which you need to avoid for you to have an enjoyable campus experience along with Aluta Continua!
1. Don’t Make Yourself A Last Option
Do not let yourself be the last option person whom a guy falls back to when they have challenges. Don’t be that kind of person who hopes that the person you love will change eventually. Avoid being that option because if they care for you, they will express it.
Once you become the last option to a guy, he will use and abuse you and move on. Worst of all, they will forget that someone like you existed. Steve Harvey on relationships once said, “men do you a favour for a purpose…!”
2. Don’t Take Things Serious when You Shouldn’t
If a guy smiles, talks, or is even takes you out for a treat; that does not mean they want to be in a relationship with you. Sometimes, what you see is what you get. It is crucial for you to understand that you will meet some people on campus who will only be friends with you.
Not every interaction with the opposite sex will end into a relationship. Just accept this fact, and you will eventually save yourself a lot of heartache in the future.
3. Waiting Long For Love To Click
You may have a “Crush” for some guy, but to him, you are just a person they keep around for the sake of not being single.
You might desire to be in a relationship, but feel no attraction towards that guy. So you end up waiting for a long to let love grow or maybe ‘Love Clicks’, instead of letting them know where you stand.
It is a situation that most people have often find themselves, and in a perfect world this doesn’t exist, but at times life is not fair. Everyone needs to feel loved and appreciated, but sometimes, we seek this feeling in the wrong places.
4. Being Too Picky
Relationships need learning the art of compromise for it to work. For most people, however, they forget that relationships are about giving in to some things even if you do not like them.
They say ‘beggars have no choice’, but that does not mean you must settle for the person you first meet. Sometimes, being too picky will either make you be in a fake relationship or make you leave a good person, then you end up in a relationship that’s hurting
Campus life comes with lots of adventure, and by being too picky, you will miss out on some of the fun that goes with being spontaneous. As they say, letting yourself go in a relationship is half the fun of finding true love.
5. Thinking You Must Be In A Relationship
A campus is a place where you discover your personality and being in a relationship with the wrong person may cost you this opportunity. Some students go into relationships out of peer pressure just to show that they are dateable.
Common…it is okay to be single sometimes. Apart from studies, you can spend your time making money online as a student, hanging out with friends, and concentrating on your studies. You will be surprised that being single is not that bad.
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Advice For Campus Relationships
Distractions are normal things for every student to face on campus. It is a universal examination that students go through and it should not be an excuse for not going into a relationship.
- When you start dating or courtship, remember you are not yet married. Do not assume the role of cook, washing machine, daddy, or mother, and above all, do not engage in premarital sex with him. Do not cast your costly pearl to the swine.
- Find decent places to meet your ‘love’ and let him respect you for your principles
- Learn how to treat male friends as friends and if you are not sure, get clarifications from him before you assume the role of girlfriend
- Lastly, hold on to your integrity. You will appreciate you did so in the future.
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